I am so happy that I have found 20 minutes in my day to have the chance to write again. There has been a great deal of things that I have been thinking about, and I decided that I would spend some time on the very significant people that I have met in New Haven this past Friday and yesterday.
I was in a part of New Haven with really wonderful homes. The kind of homes you see in children's books, when they want you to see how nice life can be when you grow up. The neighborhood is around Chapel Street, if you are farmiliar with the area, and happens to be home to Senator Joseph Lieberman. For those of you who are new to Connecticut or politics in general, Lieberman has been a Sneator from Connecticut for many years, and was the Vice Presidential candidate when Al Gore ran for President in the last election.
Everyone I met was telling me about the fact that Joe lived in the neighborhood. "Oh, you know who lives here, right?" they would say, with a "you better know" tone.
I acknowledged that I had heard the rumor, but it wasn't until I came upon Wendy's home that I actually found out where he lived.
"Usually he isn't home. But you'll know when he is, if there is a police car by the curb."
She took me out to the sidewalk to point me in the right direction. As she turned to look up the street, sure enough, there was a New Haven squad car, waiting patiently for nothing to happen.
She got really excited. "Oh, you have to go! You have to see if he'll answer the door."
Wendy and her daughter escorted me up the street. Her daughter told me about her dog knew the neighborhood as well as her mom. "If you would take her for a walk, and say 'It's time to go.' She would walk you home."
They waited under the warm light of the street lamp, while I approached the Lieberman home. I felt like there were two or three red laser beams pointed at my back as I crossed the street. Somehow, though, the large DNC with emblazoned American flag would keep me safe... right?
There was no great climax to this tale, unfortunately. It was after sunset on a Friday night, and the very orthodox family was observing their sabbath. So, I did not get to meet Joe, and as it turns out, he wouldn't have been able to donate money, as orthodox Jews do not participate in money transactions on their sabbath. So, perhaps it was just as well.
I did get to see his signature hairline through his dining room window, as I returned to an equally disappointed Wendy and her daughter.
The real gem in this story is Wendy and her daughter. Not only did they walk me to Lieberman's house, but afterwards they called their neighbors for me, in order to inform them of my impending knock on their door. Usually this happens when folks want to warn their neighbors. This time, Wendy helped me to find her neighbor, Elisabeth... who probably wouldn't have answered her door that late.
So Elisabeth and Wendy and her daughter told me all about the neighborhood. Who was a democrat. Who would be willing to give to the campaign. What they wanted to do to the sole family brave enough to post out a Bush/Cheney sign on their screen door.
They knew the entire neighborhood, and it dumbfounded me, as I thought to myself, "Am I living in the right decade?" People still know their neighbors like this?
It was a phenomenal display of community. Not only were they friends with all of their immediate neighbors, but they had stories about the families on, not the next street, but one more over. Wendy was even telling me about a childhood friend of hers, that I needed to meet if I was ever in Michigan. Outstanding!
It was refreshing to meet the neighbors, and the neighborhood through them. To be assured that there is still such thing as strong community, and that it does matter in America.
By the way, Wendy's daughter just earned her white belt, and therefore the two had nothing to fear from me, even though it was getting dark. (Although, as she told me, she could never hurt me - it wasn't the purpose of her training.)
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Monday I returned to the same New Haven neighborhood. This time I was looking to talk with folks I wasn't able to reach during Friday's visit. It is a rare but nice opportunity... to return to one's previous turf.
I was excited about what new neighbors I would meet, and if they would live up to Wendy and Elisabth's billing.
The most wonderful story to come from the day happened a little after 7:30 pm. There was a quaint, simple home among the pristine yards and ornate soffits of the neighbors, and when I knocked on the door, I was greeted by a fragile looking woman, wearing an apron.
She answered the door nervously stating, "Oh, this is not a good time to ring my bell."
I immediately noticed that she was probably fixing dinner, and most likely living on a fixed income. So I told her what I was doing and asked her if she was willing to donate, expecting that I would likely be told that it was too much to ask or that the medical bills wouldn't allow that.
Instead she invited me in (normally a practice we don't do), and I reluctantly stepped inside the door jamb. She went for her check book, and shouted at me, "How do I make this out?"
In answering, my voice did not reach her, and she nagged, "What was that? Just come in here."
Once again, I reluctantly obeyed, standing in her kitchen, helping her to write out her donation.
While there I took note of a rather striking photograph on the wall. I asked her, "Who took this photograph?"
The scene was a small European city, where a waiter was removing two, white cloth covered tables. He balanced them under each arm, and his silhouette resembled the sweeping wings of a dove. An older man sat on the steps of the cafe. His face was propped up by his left arm. His hand was cupping his cheek like a vase. His face told a story of meditation.
I asked her again, "Who's photograph is this?" as she handed to me her check.
I could see my question had upset her.
"My son," she replied. "He passed away in February."
My heart sank. How could I be asking this woman to inconvenience her life any more? I probably took a perfectly normal night and turned it into a nuisance, and now... now, I was causing painful memories.
I told her that I was sorry to hear that, and that I thought the photograph was beautiful.
She seemed delighted with my interest. She started to tell me about how her younger son was going to have another print of it made, but it would only be done by a professional... in a darkroom. Someone with experience. She wouldn't trust it to any photo lab or amateur.
I told her that I would certainly pay for a print of it. what happened next I never would have expected.
She sat me down and showed me the funeral program for her son, the one who had taken the photograph. Her other son had put together the booklet, as he is a creative writer. She handed me a copy and asked me to read it and keep it. It was very touching.
I gave her my information and she told me that she would not forget me and that she thought her son would be happy with the work I was doing. She also told me that she would not forget my interest in the print, and would get me one.
It still floors me. I was very genuine in my reaction to the photograph and the thought of having a print of it, after hearing her son's story... from her... well, it is really an astounding story of the power of people in our lives, and I felt very privileged that I was not only witness to it, but a part of it.
So, New Haven... you have a newfound place in my life. Your people have shown me that compassion in a community is not an anomaly, even in New England.